How to maintain the relationship

Sofie Trepešová

There are tons of articles on the internet about how to get a relationship, how to seduce the person you want, how to be the best lover,... But this one ought to be about keeping the relationship. Mainly do I mean the romantic relationships, but most of the points made can be applied for all kinds of acquaintances.

The most important thing of all is, whether you really want the relationship to last. Maybe you just want to enjoy your youth? It's perfectly normal that relationships from a young age don't last very long since you are only beginning to get to know yourself. Does the person make you feel happy? Are you your true self with them? Is your partner also your best friend? Is the relationship healthy?

The number ONE, the most important one in all kinds of relationships is COMMUNICATION. I know you've probably heard that like hundreds of times but it really is essential. Maybe you know that it's important but you're not doing it properly. Always start the debate with something nice and then add what you don't like. But try to stay objective, telling them they are doing this and that will just hurt them and they'll get defensive. The constructive critique is the best. You should obviously set your boundaries. The earlier the better. Don't try to make them like you. Be your authentic self and if they want to stay, they will. Beg noone, never, to be with you. You are amazing!

If you want it to grow, you have to take care of it. It doesn't stop with getting together. Make them feel loved, happy, cared for! Even after years, you've spent together, try to surprise them. F*** the gender roles. If you really are in love, their joy will also fill you with happiness.

And the last thing which I think many people do that ruins their relationships. You don't own your s/o. That's toxic. They are free human beings, they can have their owns friends, they can hang out with them without you, they can even look at other people without meaning to replace you. Sure, that one is again, about the boundaries you set. But relationships shouldn't feel like missing on something, you shouldn't feel like you are trapped. In long term, they wouldn't last.

Checked by J.C